Having A Spat With Your Boyfriend? – 3 Stupid Mistakes Women Make In A Fight
We all get pissed off every once in awhile. Any healthy relationship will have a few misunderstandings here and there, but when you are fighting, there are a few things you really should never say to a man.
Arguing with Boyfriend Blunder #1 – You Tell Him He Knocked You Up
Sometimes women will tell their guy that they’re knocked up to try and get him to commit to her. Don’t even think of trying this. Maybe having a little rug rat is enough to make a woman’s heart gush with joy, but if you and your boyfriend aren’t exactly on the best terms, this is not going to improve things.
To start, you boyfriend is going to feel like you’re trapping him in a position he doesn’t want to be in. If he’s pissed off at you, the last thing on earth he is going to want is to feel trapped with someone that pisses him off.
If it is true that you’re pregnant, your boyfriend will instantly feel scared and probably try to persuade you that having an abortion is the best course of action. TV likes to portray men as brainless buffoons, but really most men aren’t fools. They know that bringing a child into a troubled relationship isn’t going to fix things.
If you’re lying about it, your boyfriend will find out sooner or later when you’re entering your third trimester and you can still fit into your size four jeans. Is it really going to make things better if he thinks you’re liar and manipulator in addition to all the other problems going on?
Arguing with Boyfriend Blunder #2 – Telling Him You Had an Affair
Maybe you’re pissed and you want to tell him about that time you and his best friend got wasted and one thing led to another… I’d be lying if I said I haven’t done something similar. But how is this going to help you out? All it will do is piss off your boyfriend for ever trusting an easy woman such as you.
You heard me. Even though you’re just attempting to make him feel like a total chump, you’re just telling him that you have no morals and you want to sleep around. Now, I’m going out on a limb here and I’m guessing that this isn’t exactly the kind of history you’re wanting for yourself.
Arguing with Boyfriend Blunder #3 – Telling Him He Doesn’t Measure Up
Believe me, don’t go there. Of course you will probably succeed in making him feel insecure. But you’ll just be tearing yourself down at the same time.
This will only make you look extremely superficial like all that you care about is size. All you’ll be doing is making yourself look like the female version of a construction worker that cat-calls at every lady in a pretty dress that walks by (no offense to any construction workers out there). This isn’t how a classy woman acts.
These three mistakes are things that women seem to do frequently despite the fact that they only end up backfiring on them. Trust me, I know how challenging it can be in the heat of the moment to stay cool, but you need to make sure that you act like a sophisticated and refined woman. It may be tempting to try to humiliate your boyfriend, but it’s critical not to tear yourself down at the same time.
Plus, the more dumb things you say, the more damage you’re going to need to fix if you want to save your relationship. I know it’s hard to do so in the heat of the moment, but you need to keep a long-term view. Ask yourself “is this something I’m going to regret saying later?” before you blurt it out.
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